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  September 2014

Many of us are feeling 'abit' sad as our summer comes to a close. And... I suspect some of you are saying, "What Summer???" It has been a busy summer here at CPC with several positive changes: remodeled waiting room, new therapists, added office space, and my husband Myles joining us as the CPC Vice President. We are excited about the days ahead and all that God has for us.
 
Many of you are now sending your children off to school. The grade, middle, and high school moms most likely say, "YEAH!!!" but those of college bound students may feel sadness as the years have passed all too quickly. If we here at CPC can be of any help and hope please give us a call at 616.949.9550.

Dr. Jan Bentley
Welcome to Centennial Park Counseling...

Brian Berce, LMSW 

Brian is a Licensed Master Social Worker. He earned his bachelor's degree in History from Taylor University in Upland, Indiana. He earned his first Master's degree in Student Personnel Administration in Higher Education from Ball State University, and a second Master's degree in Social Work from Grand Valley State University. Brian has more than 25 years of experience working in counseling, training, higher education, non-profit administration, and financial planning. His experience in helping others as a clinical therapist has spanned over 18 years. Brian enjoys working with individuals, couples, and families. His areas of expertise include depression, anxiety, addictive personalities, spiritual issues, financial issues, and cognitive restructuring.

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Quick Tips for Using the Art of Validation to Diffuse Anger
By: Jim Gerakinis, MA, LLP, EdS. 

Within the first few weeks or days of a new school year most parents have probably heard phrases like, "I can't do anything right!", "This is stupid! Why do I have to do this?", "I hate school", "That teacher is out to get me", or "Everybody hates me."

As parents we often want to jump in and solve the problem for our child. Although our children definitely need our help in sticky situations, often they just need validation that their feelings are real and that we are there to listen to them. Often validating our child's feelings opens up dialogue between the parent and the child where the child comes up with solutions to his or her unique problem. Validation sends the message that it is OK to have these emotions. With some of the above examples you might respond like this:

"I can't do anything right!" Response
"It must be frustrating to feel like you can't do anything right."

"This is stupid! Why do I have to do this?" Response
"I'm sorry! How can I help you?"

"I hate school." or "That teacher is out to get me." Response
"Sounds like you are in a tough spot in that class."

"Everybody hates me." Response
"You had a rough day, huh?"

If your child or teenager continues to have extreme school difficulties, has signs of anxiety or depression, has difficulty with anger management, or becomes abusive to self or others, Centennial Park Counseling is here to help. Give us a call at 616-949-9550.  
Equipping Your Kids To Love School
From a positive attitude about school to healthy homework habits, here are four practical ideas to help your kids enjoy the learning process.
by Jody Capehart

 

Attitude is Everything

Share with your children that school is important and a privilege. Let them know that learning is exciting.

 

Start a list of things your kids like about school. Recess and lunch may be at the top, but look for additional positive aspects.  

 

Discuss these positives at mealtime, in the car and before bedtime.

 

When you get school supplies, make it a special time together. If your budget allows, get a new back-to-school outfit or uniform for the first day of school.

 

Look for "Back to School" activities at your students' school and make plans to participate in them.

 

Most of all, model a positive attitude about school and help your children get excited about the new adventure that awaits them.


Build Up Their Confidence

Bolster your children's confidence by communicating that you believe in them and appreciate how they learn. If your children struggle with particular subjects and/or have learning challenges, stay positive.

 

Use statements like, "I believe God has a special way for you to learn." Or, "We are going to look into your learning style and get you support if you need it."

 

If you have older elementary children, find books to read about successful people who learn differently and perhaps struggled in their school years, but went on to do great things. Role models encourage children that they can succeed.


Talk With Your Kids

If your children are young, talk about going back to school and all that it involves. Make sure they are aware of the new things they'll encounter, and alleviate their fears and concerns as much as you can.

 

If your children have already hit a difficult area with a particular subject and/or a learning issue and have concerns about dealing with those issues again, be proactive and talk about ways to find solutions together. Encourage them that this is a new school year, and it can also be a new beginning.


Homework is an Opportunity to Practice

Homework isn't a punishment given by the teacher. Rather, it's an opportunity to practice what is being taught in the classroom. Remain positive about homework, and your attitude will be contagious.

 

An encouraging concept to discuss with your students is the "10,000 Hour Rule" from the book Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell. He says that the greatest athletes, musicians, inventors and dancers practiced for at least 10,000 hours before they became really successful at their "art."

 

Sometimes kids think that certain people can just do things easily and it doesn't take a lot of work for them. But even Dirk Nowitzki, the MVP of the 2011 NBA Finals, practiced every day for 20 years! Sharing stories like this is a positive way of showing your kids that there's truth to the old adage, "Practice makes perfect."

 

Once they understand that homework has merit, give them a special place to do it. With each of your kids, brainstorm ways to set up homework environments suited to his or her learning style that will energize, empower and equip the student to study more effectively. Then execute your ideas so each child knows where his or her homework spot is and feels comfortable in it. Your efforts will help turn potential homework hassles into healthy homework habits.

 

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